Myspace Dating 101: A girls perspective

original post date: june 26th 2006

(Really, this applies to any online dating in general!)

1.) If a guy has a Myspace page and it is littered with trashy pictures of half dressed women - this speaks volumes to this particular guys character. Immediately ignore any and all emails and/or attempts at contacting you!

2.) If a guy allows comments that are trashy to be posted by his friends on his Myspace page this is equally as bad as number 1. You want a guy who respects himself, his friends and most especially the ladies. These guys who allow posts and put up pics like this are probably your average "frat bro" who thinks it hilarious to act like a teenager and secretly high-five each other after they put up the posts saying "good one maaan". After all, it is just a Myspace page, so why not...who really cares anyhow, right? WRONG!! HUGE red flag LADIES!!! And guys leave the locker room talk IN the locker room!

3.) LADIES: Ask to see multiple pictures of your interest! Ask if he has any pics from where he went this last weekend! YOU WANT CURRENT PICTURES, TRUST! I met up with a guy who looked SUPER hot in his picture...but it had to have been from at least 5 years back. When he showed up, he had gained about 50 lbs and somehow magically became unattractive! Don't be afraid to ask ladies you should enjoy your date too. You should not be saying to yourself, "Well at least I am getting a free dinner!!"

4.) NEVER and I mean NEVER, pick a place that you like and frequent to meet a guy for the 1st time. Once they know that's where you hang out you cannot shake them! These are always the guys who you DON'T like when you meet up. And of course, they show up on all the days you like to go up there because for some crazy reason, when you were planning the date you thought it would be a good idea to say, "Yeah, I totally go up there every Wednesday and Thursday night like clockwork! If you were to show up on one of those nights, you will find me there!!!" Dont get over eager ladies! WAIT until you have met the fellow in a nice, safe, and EASY to get out of situation!

5.) You get HIS number and you call him on your own schedule / time. Call from a blocked number - just good practice in general. You'd be surprised how many guys look hot online and have a really NOT masculine voice. TOTAL turn off for me! You don't want to have to save another "don't answer" in your phone! Too annoying!

6.) YOU pick the place! Pick a place that does not require you to be there for any extended period of time. Starbucks is a great, neutral meeting ground. You go you sit and have a coffee. If you don't like him - FINE...book! Also its a good idea to put things on a time table to start. Tell the guy, "I would love to meet up with you today for coffee at Starbucks. How does 1:00pm sound? But you should know I have an appointment I have to be at, at 2:00pm. I think it's the perfect time to just meet up and see if we mesh!" This way you have a "legit" out! If you like the guy - FABULOUS! But don't act too available. Leave for your "2:00pm appointment" and drop him your number. Tell him you are busy with work (or whatever) for the next few days but you should be good to go out again, assuming he wants to, on the weekend! At this point you know you like him - let HIM call you to see if its mutual!

7.) During your 1st meeting you need to make sure and cover everything on your list of qualifications! If religion is important talk about that ... family ... friends ... hang outs ... where he shops ... what kinda work he does ... etc. We all have our lists and the more veteran daters have a long laundry list of requirements - get it ALL covered!! This is a PRIORITY! You need to get a good idea of who this person is who's sitting across from you. You also have NOT seen him in a social situation so you want to get all your questions answered ASAP. Also, if something doesn't mesh - or you don't like his responses...BOOK! These are the ones that turn crazy!!

8.) Most importantly, NEVER let a guy know where you live until you start dating seriously! I mean for the first 3 or 4 times you go out - you meet him where ever y'all are going to be. If he is crazy - you never know when and/or where it will come out and you DEFINITELY don't want to be in the car with him when and/or if it does happen!