So, I have shaken off some unnecessary baggage and have done a little house cleaning. My mom always asks me why I spend time, energy and emotions on people who don't seemingly deserve it. She's been telling me that for years. I have gotten better about not letting myself be dragged down by other's lack of self-worth, but like a homeless puppy, I have a compassion for those who are not strong. There are too many people out there, who by age, are considered an adult but have not matured to own the title of an adult. These so-called adults typically possess the same qualities that mirror very closely to that of the behavior of a child.
First, if you find yourself typing a flaming email (text or IM) to make a point - grow up. Deal with your problems face-to-face. Anyone can be strong behind the letters on a keyboard. This is a huge sign of weakness.
Second, if you feel the need to find people who always agree with you - grow up. This world is filled with millions upon millions of people who all have their own independent ideas, thoughts and opinions. If you spend all of your time looking for YES people, in my opinion, you have wasted your time.
Third, if you do not have the ability to agree to disagree – grow up. Again, not everyone will agree with your opinions. Everyone thinks their ideas and opinions are correct and that others should agree with your way of thinking, but realistically it's not going to happen. If you can't accept that someone doesn't think the same way you do, then you will have a long lonely road ahead of you.
Fourth, if you require someone else to get you motivated to do or say something – grow up. It's easily understood from the "group think" mentality. When 2 or more people come together, as a group they can do things they wouldn't ordinarily do independently. For the love of God, have an independent thought. Not every idea or opinion you have needs to be reinforced by someone else to make it's worth.
Fifth, if you can't walk away from a disagreement to find your own personal fault – grow up. Things said in anger are usually what you really think but have never said. Beyond that, you say it in a far more hateful/angry way then you would have if you were having a calm rational discussion. Once something has been said, it becomes real and it is hard for people to forget the things you said in that moment of anger.
Sixth, if you name call during a disagreement – grow up. Name-calling belongs on the blacktop during recess not in a "so-called" adult discussion. If you can't make your point without name-calling, then you need your adult card revoked.
Seventh, if you get legitimately upset when you don't get your way – grow up. Or at least throw yourself on the floor and have a tantrum. If you're going to act like you're three years old, then really act like you're three years old – and that's what they do.
Eighth, if you have never paid for all of your bills on you own – grow up. You have no concept of what it is like for the rest of the world when things are handed to you. I'm not talking about you living on your own but your parents give you money. I mean hoofing it in the real world, where if you don't go to work your rent doesn't get paid.
Ninth, if you have felt defensive about any of the things I have listed above – grow up. It just means you see yourself somewhere in this ranting. If you don't agree with what I have said, you are entitled to your opinion, as I am to mine.
If you think of something that you would like to add to the list, feel free to leave a comment. If you would like to refute something that I have on the list, feel free to leave a comment. There is a multitude of things that I could add to this list - this list is never ending. The 8 that I have highlighted are childish things that I have either been witness to or had the behavior directed towards me in the last 72 hours.
It's the ultimate unnecessary drama, thus the reason for my house cleaning. Oddly, I thought I would be upset about it all, but I am just not. Like I said, I truly did have the best sleep of my life last night, waking only to a refreshed start of a great day!
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